Weirdo the Abhorrent ([info]jianna) wrote,
@ 2008-07-22 23:43:00
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Ok guys. So roommate is still having her boyfriend over all the time. And it really bugs me, but I feel like I don't have a justified enough "case" to complain. It's not like they're talking really loud or making loud sex noises or anything like that. It annoys me that they're super clingy and I don't want to be around it, so I go to my room to avoid it. So whenever he's here, I feel confined to my room. And then they still sit there and giggle and pick on each other and are all TEE HEE OMG STOOPPP HEHEHEHE with the occasionaly loud SMACK kiss that grosses me out cuz I have to hear it in my room through a closed door.

Today I came home and their cars were in the parking lot. I come in, all the lights are off and there's a shirt and a hat thrown on the floor in the hallway. I freak out with awkward and leave again and go back to my friend's house. I just don't feel comfortable in my own house apparently. I kind of want to complain, but I don't feel justified to do so. They're not obnoxiously loud, I'm just really not comfortable about ... any of it. Nevermind that the guy kind of gets on my nerves a little.

But it just seems like my own issue with ARGH I CAN'T BE IN A ROOM RIGHT NEXT TO ONE WHERE SEX MAY BE HAPPENING and ARGH I AM DISGUSTED BY YOUR CONSTANT PDA.

idk. it just seems like something I can't really complain about, or if I were, how do I even begin to approach it?

I'm just really frustrated by it. I hate feeling uncomfortable in my own damn house.

It sucks cuz up until now I've really liked living with my roommate. So I guess part of it is feeling like I've had a friend torn away from me even though she's still here. We haven't watched any movies together in a long time because she's always watching them with him (and it's generally shit I don't care about, and who wants to be a fucking third wheel?)

Fuck, I kind of hate boys.

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[info]darth_angelus
2008-07-23 07:01 am UTC (link)
Can't say I blame you for not wanting to be around all the kissing and sex, that kind of thing is embarrasing and a reminder of things people like us can't seem to find.

As for feeling like you've lost a friend, I'm in the same situation there, one of my best friends just got a new boyfriend and so she's spending most of her time with him. I miss her company :(

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[info]cosmicshiva
2008-07-23 08:05 am UTC (link)
My partner lives with a couple. He seems to deal with it okay (except for when the annoying petty female half is annoying and petty and the apathetic male part is apathetic - which is often, but that's more of a personality thing than a couple thing.) I wouldn't want to personally.
When you're new in a relationship it's (I guess for most people) really intense. I was irritating as fuck (I gather) when I started dating chris. I'm glad my friends still like me three years on. Anyway, she probably doesn't realise what she's doing because she's so into this guy. I have a friend who is really touchy feely with her girlfriend. Like, always making out and slapping each other on the butts. It used to weird me out, not because it was two chicks, but because I wouldn't be that open in front of people myself (unless I was in a new relationship or drunk) and it's like, uuuh you guys sure are having a snog, what do I say here? Akward silence? But I got over it when I realised, hey, it's their world too, and they have every right to feel comfortable as I do. It doesn't bug me anymore. If they're fine being touchy feely in front of me, I'm a-ok too. If your friend and her partner have loud sex or leave crumpled up tissues/condoms around the house, give them shit about it - You aren't the person who should be embarrassed in that situation!

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[info]cosmicshiva
2008-07-23 08:09 am UTC (link)
Also, just watch the movie with them. You never know, they could be fun to hang out with as a couple. If they want private movie time, they can do it in her bedroom. Does she have a laptop? The lounge should be communal as long as you're paying equal rent.

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[info]jianna
2008-07-23 03:48 pm UTC (link)
I've watched movies with them occasionally, but the guy makes annoying commentary and they still TEE HEE OMG NOOOOOoOoO pick on each other through the whole thing.

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[info]elina_elsu
2008-07-23 09:12 am UTC (link)
Oh god..I understand you :O
I wouldn't want to be in that situation either.

I just hope that I have a nice new (single) roommate once my school starts again.

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[info]vanish
2008-07-23 12:11 pm UTC (link)
I would probably ask her to have a ~*roomie meeting*~ with you and discuss what boundaries you'd like to set up. I know it isn't any fun living with a couple (even though he's not officially part of the lease) because you always feel like you're in the way, or seeing stuff that should be private, but it's YOUR place, not his. You should always feel at home, and never feel like you should be stuck in your room because he's out there.

If I was in your shoes, I'd let her know that I felt that way (not totally comfortable, feeling like a 3rd wheel) and that you'd like to come up with ways that'd be good for both of you. Maybe establish a rule that if they're going to ramp up the PDA, they retreat to her bedroom so you don't have to watch them make out. It'd be a good time to schedule some friend-time, as well, just the two of you.

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[info]dontdiefox
2008-07-23 12:43 pm UTC (link)
Argh, I wish I had some good suggestions, but...you could try using headphones, maybe? I know this sounds basic, but sometimes I put on headphones and listen to shitty techno when things around are driving me crazy.

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[info]dontdiefox
2008-07-23 12:44 pm UTC (link)
Oh! And

"Fuck, I kind of hate boys."

Ew, boys.

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[info]jianna
2008-07-23 03:46 pm UTC (link)
I do use headphones. And then I resent the fact that I'm having to use headphones and get grouchier. =\

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